Here's the letter….I hope you find something in here that will help you find what you're looking for this Christmas!
Whether we celebrate Hanukkah or Christmas, whether our traditions are French, German or Asian, most of us approach this holiday season with great expectations.
written by Barbara KohmWe take great care to select the best gifts for our children, to bake holiday cookies, to decorate the house with homemade ornaments and to give parties for friends and family dinners with traditional holiday foods. We remember former roommates, distant relatives, neighbors, teachers and mail carriers with special little gifts. Yet the result of all this well-intentioned activity is frequently children in tears, adults with frayed nerves and parents who feel angry and unappreciated. This year you can avoid this "bad aftertaste" from the holiday season by adding the following gifts to your list.The Gift of Less...Less ExcitementThe single greatest cause of holiday unhappiness for children is sensory overload. Too much excitement will overload your children and leave them in tears. This year give your children less excitement. I suspect that one reason we overload our children with excitement is to regain the excitement we remember from our own childhoods. Because our real attention is focused on our own needs rather than theirs, we have a difficult time assessing when they've had enough. This year, separate your needs from your children's and stop before they've had too much....Less GiftsWe also overload our children with gifts. A six-year old who receives six gifts will tear open one after another and have nothing to play with when he's done. If the same child receives three gifts he will have the time, the energy and the attention to explore and enjoy each gift individually. This year give your children the gift of less gifts.The Gift of OrderThe excitement and fun of the holiday season become too much very quickly for a child who is tired or hungry. For this reason it is particularly important to maintain a regular schedule during the holiday season. By rigorously enforcing bedtime and limiting snacks you will give your child the reserves she needs to handle the excitement and social demands of the holiday season. Your gift of a regular schedule will enable your child to fully enjoy all the other fun of the holiday season.The Gift of LimitsChildren have limited reserves of energy, limited attention spans and limited social skills. The gift of respect for these limits will make everyone's holiday season happier. This means controlling the family's schedule by leaving family affairs before the children become whiny and cranky, by balancing special activities with quiet activities away from a lot of people. Respect of a child's limits makes a wonderful holiday gift.The Gift of GivingSometimes adults forget that it can be as much fun to give a gift as it is to receive one. As a result they do all the giving and don't let the children in on the fun. Help your child shop or make special gifts for family members. This will make him feel a apart of the holiday planning and teach him the joy of giving.The Gift of YouThe most important gift you can give your family this holiday season is the gift of your. Not a tired, harried, over-worked you, but a relaxed, happy you. To give your family this gift you will have to take good care of yourself. Don't try to do too much. They'd rather you had time for an extra story than those fancy cookies. You can bake the cookies next year but this time with your child will never come around again. Get enough rest. you can't stay up late at night and go strong all day long without paying the price of a short temper and frayed nerves. Ask for help. Don't try to be super parent. You can't do everything yourself. You'll feel angry and put upon if you do this. Plan some fun for yourself away from the family. This will give you time to garner your reserves and you'll return to your family with the most important gift of all; a happy, fulfilled, relaxed you.